My previous boss said I let everything knock me over. She was right. I had so little faith in myself and my abilities that any hiccup sent me flying off my mountain. She said I had all the skills, all the knowledge, and I was really good at my job- I only needed to trust in myself.
When you are compassionate with yourself, you will also begin to trust yourself more, because you know you can handle whatever comes your way. Bad things will always happen, but being able to soothe yourself in these situations will keep you pushing forward and trying new things. You know you’ll catch yourself when you fall.
For a long time, I didn’t draw. If I created anything less than perfect, it would damage my ego and identity as an artist, therefore it was easier to not create. Sounds silly, I know. Many of us do something similar in order to avoid ‘failure’ and damage to our identity. Perhaps you procrastinate, because if you never accomplish anything then no one can blame you for doing a bad job. Our fear of failure, of not living up to expectations, of not being perfect all prevent us from doing something truly great.
How it would feel to turn something in on time, knowing you did your best? Anything less than your best is still a way of hiding and protecting yourself; let self compassion can be your new armor. If anyone is displeased with your best effort, you can use self compassion to comfort yourself. “This is really hard. It hurts to hear criticism, but I know I did my best so I’m proud of myself.”